God My Wife is Hot

Wife, Best Friend and Photographer
Wife, Best Friend and Photographer

I am constantly amazed at my wife’s ability to remain sane as a woman with all the struggles she has faced in life. From the pressures of society to the unique attributes of being female, she has dealt with so much in every season of life and remained someone I constantly am inspired by and look up to. Indeed, I am proud to be her husband and best friend in this life and the next.

Of late, she has had to endure a cruel and unjust phase of life for no other reason than she is a woman, menopause. What’s interesting to me is that we have read up on and listened to so many points of view of what women go through when that dreaded day comes and menopause becomes part of everyday life, but it’s all from a woman’s perspective, and most assuredly should be, as they are the ones dealing with it on such a deep personal level, physically and mentally.

Rarely, if ever, do I hear from the men. And when I do it’s generally in a joking manner laden with so much ignorance, and sad to say is quite insensitive. The last thing a woman needs to hear is some quick and insincere response to her heartfelt needs.

Though I can joke about it, and do at times, but from a position of knowing and understanding what my wife is going through. Perhaps as a way to shed light on her struggles, let her know I do understand, am listening and am willing to help. Is it frustrating? Very much so. But I’m learning.

One of the most difficult aspects I deal with are her repetitive questions that seek reassurance. At first it was maddening to me to be asked the same question over and over…within a short period of time, sometimes within the same hour. But seriously, that’s one of the cruelest conditions of menopause, she normally would never need constant reassurance, but for some ungodly reason menopause does! I finally made the recommendation to her, jokingly, that I would make her a set of flash cards with her questions and my answers.

Reliving all the difficult memories of past experiences in life with her is tough, too. While she gets to go back through all the past emotions again, and not just as they were, we’re talking an “erectile dysfunction pill” for emotions, they will last more than four hours and be much harder than before! Those memories can be difficult to deal with all over again. Moreover, her memories of times I wasn’t a part of, how am I supposed to be a support when I don’t even know the trigger source of the emotion.

Indeed, to me, menopause is far more a traumatic mental affliction than it is physical.

That is not to say the physical is any walk in the park. My wife is hot…and cold, and hot, and cold. If you see a woman with her head out the window driving down the highway in the middle of winter with sweat running down her face, well, that’s us.

Sleeping at night is like an aerobics class. We start off all snugly and the next thing I know it’s like someone put an electric blanket between us set on ultra-high! Blankets flying, not to mention our little dog somewhere lost in the now flying blankets, we’re seeking the cool air away from the sauna of our not so distant quiet and relaxing sleep. Sleep? In short spurts, maybe. This was no gradual warm up either, instant heat. Perfect I think for winter camping in the mountains. But just as soon as you’re looking to turn the ceiling fan on high, open all the windows [mind you it’s 20 degrees outside] she’s grabbing for the blankets as the heat dissipates and the grueling cold moves back in. Talking about AC/DC!

Where does all this leave me? Hoping I can at the very least bring some peace to her life during this rather evil punishment she must go through, that we’re going through. It does affect me, not as it does her, but indeed, it does affect me, we’re going through this together, like every other stage in our 33 years together.

As crazy as it sounds I love going through it with her. But that’s just as it should be, we should always be there for each other. The key being, together. We are doing this, we are finding ways to cope and we are holding strong against what life throws at us not willing to let the negative penetration of life’s dark side destroy what we’ve made together.

Sunrise at 14,000' on Mt Evans
Sunrise at 14,000′ on Mt Evans

I love the picture above. I love to see her finding, if for just a moment, peace. Be it meditating, staring blankly into the sunrise or just absorbing the short time when menopause leaves her alone, I just want to go up and grab her from behind, wrap my arms around her and encourage, embrace and relish in the moment with her. Unfortunately I fear that it might trigger something that would somehow reverse the bliss she is enjoying.

Alas, I stand back and have my own moment of seeing the most beautiful person in the world creating a special and most unbelievably serene setting with her physical and spiritual energy aligned with the universe at peace.

Peace,

The “M” in MAD ๐Ÿ™‚

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53 Replies to “God My Wife is Hot”

  1. I appreciate your understanding of what your wife faces in life. Especially the menopause, most men don’t understand the changes that their wife will go through. I know I am blessed that my husband is with me through this change. It’s not me hoing through it by myself its

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    1. Thanks for your kinds words. The more I learn the more I understand just how difficult it is. My reactions and responses can be so crucial, indeed support and understanding are a must. I wish she didn’t have to go through this…much less any other woman.

      -Miller

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  2. I love your blogs, you two are so sweet!.Thank you for sharing a tender, compassionate and thoughtful perspective on the wild ride called menopause, from a male perspective ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Thank you! I was blindsided by menopause, to say the least. I knew the physical affects for the most part but was taken back by the emotional hell. I feel bad for her [and all women who go through this] and try the best I can to ease it.

      -Miller

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    1. Funny thing, in a round about way, she’s there for me too! Not necessarily to educate me [which she has] but to support my own frustration, for lack of a better term, in welcoming this challenging time of life. I hate that she has to go through this, but, as another comment left above states, โ€œItโ€™s us as a couple going through it togetherโ€

      -Miller

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  3. Your love for your wife shines through this post. It’s great that you can understand, to some extent, what she is going through in this time in her life.

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    1. I hope she knows how much she means to me. This has been so hard on her, there are days I just want to ball her up under me and stand in the face of it all and say “don’t you dare mess with her anymore”

      -Miller

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  4. What a wonderful post! It’s nice to hear your appreciation for your wife. I haven’t been through menopause yet, but I hear it can be really tough. It’s nice to hear this from a mans view.

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    1. Thanks Kathy. She’s my world! Menopause was new to us too, it’s been educational to say the least. I feel so bad for her, not only the physical, but moreover the emotional aspect which [to me] is just down right evil ๐Ÿ˜ฎ !!! My hat is off to her and all women who have to go through this period of life. You guys are way stronger than men.

      -Miller

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    1. Thanks for the kind words Tanya ๐Ÿ™‚ Growing up together since high school has definitely been one hell of a ride. We’ve learned so much from each other and ultimately grew together. We look forward to the future and what it holds for us and the vision we have.

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    1. She is indeed everything to me. I do hope others can glean from the experience we’re having by being there for each other, but I’d hardly want to run into another me ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thanks for your kind words.

      -Miller

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  5. From the heart is always the truth, but yet it sounds like a melodic prayer. It’s good to hear a man feel as if he has walked in our shoes. The way you feel for your wife is the way I feel for my husband, but maybe it took for me to have a very bad marriage to appreciate my soul-mate even more. He’s a man that says he’s sorry with no hesitation. Thanks for sharing the spoken truth of your heart.

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    1. Couldn’t help but smile, I’ve walked in my wife’s shoes a few times…well…tripped over them anyway. She has her “spot” where you can often find them, or in my case trip over them, but that’s just fine with me. I too have my own habits. Over the years I’ve learned to appreciate hers and love them all the more. She’s my everything and I wouldn’t have it any other way ๐Ÿ™‚

      -Miller

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  6. So sorry for your wife. She is lucky to have your support and love to get through this, but it seems you are just as lucky to have her with the love you shared in this post.

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  7. This is such a sweet post! I love the idea that, someday, my husband may be as thoughtful and understanding as you are (or have become) in your own marriage. He’s young and so am I- thankfully, menopause is a while off yet so my “jimmy legs” are his biggest nighttime complaint ๐Ÿ˜›

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    1. “have become” would be right on the money. We married very young in high school and have learned much about each other and ourselves over the past 32ish years. In short we grew together. Supporting her during menopause is what we [us as a couple] do, she has been there for me during my own trials, which I’d have to say do not compare to menopause. I’m quite convinced that men have it soooo much easier ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. I got to admit, I didn’t know either…but I’m a fast learner and will do anything for her. Menopause is cruel to say the least and a mystery that needs daily solving to know what and how it’s going to affect you [her, me, us] on that day.

      -Miller

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  8. I hope all husbands can be just like you – the world would be a much better place! I am not married yet.. though I love my man and I think he is the most awesome man I ever had and dated sometimes.. thinking about marrying (not him or anything but the idea of marriage scares me a bit – but I would love to be with him) I guess you could say.. the future and what lies ahead scares me.

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  9. Although it is seemingly rare, it’s wonderful and important to have someone that understands the life changes that many women go through. This is what a good marriage is truly about: understanding and support (among other things). ๐Ÿ™‚

    HilLesha

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    1. You mean I have to think about someone besides myself ๐Ÿ˜ฎ It’s sad to say many are insensitive to live beyond self now days, I’m so incredibly happy to know Debbie has my back as much as I have hers! Indeed, that is a huge part of what makes a good marriage and friendship.

      -Miller

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  10. I enjoyed reading your post, I too am going through menapause and I always thought I would fly thru this time with no problems, I have always been heathly, maintained my weight, watched my diet, excercised regularly, them BAM my life went haywire! My husband has been very supportive but I finally had to get more help. I went to my ob/gyne doctor and he said “quality of life is very important and hormone replacement is not the bad thing it has a reputation of being, that was an inconclusive report done in the early 80’s” I have been on HRT for 3 weeks now and it has made all the difference in the world. Please have your wife talk to a younger ob/gyne doctor, someone who it up to date with the new information available. No one needs to be on this roller coaster ride with out help, the same hormones that were in her body for the first 50 years did not kill her, they will not kill her now! Good luck & God bless you both.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing, Janet! This is the “D” in MAD. ๐Ÿ™‚ I have considered HRT on several occasions, I have heard that it makes a giant difference. Like you said, quality of life has been affected so much so that I always look at doing whatever I can to help. I really appreciate you sharing your journey! Thank you and G-d bless!!

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